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Question: Hedonist Couple Seek Bi- & Gay Women for Wife

Dear Lounge Advice,
My wife is truly bisexual, and met another young woman who is also, so much so that they first time they played, it lasted over four hours and they each came so many times that before ending the evening, they had already set another play date for less than a week later. The problem is, the other woman has a distinct body odor that breaks my wife's focus, so much that she finds it a challenge to go down on, or even suck the nipples of the other woman. She very much wants to continue to play with her friend, but the odor is presenting a challenge to doing so. We would welcome any advice you can provide to remedy this situation. Just FYI, we already addressed a similar issue with this woman, she used aloe vera based lotion everywhere, including her nipples and genitals, and we as tactfully as possible asked her not to, and she indicated that she would refrain from using it on those areas, so we're a little nervous about addressing this issue now.
Any suggestions would be very much appreciated, as my wife really loves this woman, and she loves my wife, so I am desperate to figure out how to solve this new concern.
Thanks,


Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Well….BO/Body Odor issues are a tricky subject.

You are either going to have to "deal" with it or call it a "deal breaker"…IMHO.

If you are uncomfortable talking to this person again about this issue and it is not going to be a long term fling I would call it a "deal breaker" and call it quits.

Since you already voiced concerns over the "Aloe Vera" lotion this person uses then it sounds like you don't have any issues voicing your opinions.

Hell you could even "fib" a bit and claim it is an allergy hyper sensitivity issue.

I would suggest that you be gently honest with this person and let them know the situation.
Maybe suggest "bathing" and a "no perfumes/lotion" policy prior to play dates/playtime….or make that a part of the playtime prep/foreplay….tell her it really turns your wife on…something along those lines.

If that does not solve the issue and it is a "natural" body odor this person simply emits even after bathing…there is not much you are going to be able to do about that other than try to mask it with perfumes or body sprays that are tolerable to your wife….and make WONDERFUL GIFTS !! ;) ;)


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Question: Ny traveling 

Dear Lounge Advice,
So this one is tough to admit and the mrs knows and is working with me too. I am also going to sound pretty pathetic, but I am going to put it out there anyway. I have always been a competitive guy in sports, life etc. I/we have been in the lifestyle a while and I have move past pretty much all insecurities and love how we connect and the openness both mental and sexually we have. That said, there is one issue that still plagues me/us to this day. The issue is Penis size. I have an average penis in my mind when it comes to the lifestyle, but many single males who succeed in the lifestyle are very large. On the one hand I enjoy seeing my wife with someone who is large, but on the other hand I have the craziest thoughts. Thoughts like, is he stretching her out that wont go back? Is he hitting spots I will never be able to hit having something with her I dont if even physical and so on. Yes I know I he will never make her feel like I do cause she loves me but that answer doesnt seem to work for me. Its the pride that I cant get past. The thought of him giving her "physical" feelings I never will be able too.

PS. believe it or not we really are secure in the lifestyle and have had our fair share of very large men. I am ok somethings but drive her nuts at others when I fall back into this line of thinking and start asking questions.

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

All people have insecurities…sometimes big or sometimes small…no pun intended:-)

It is how you choose to deal with them that matters more than anything else.

Of course guys with larger penis size are going to produce different sensations and go places that an "average" size cock would not normally reach or produce.

You simply have to accept that as a fact beyond your control…but it does not mean that you are lacking anything.

As long as she is not complaining or expressing that she is dissatisfied with you I would suggest that you not worry about this and enjoy watching her experience different pleasures that only certain individuals or toys can provide.

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Question: Fun, playful couple seeks female for threesome

Dear Lounge Advice,
What's the best way to find a more upscale club in our area? We are outside of Chicago, and have not had much luck. Any advice on finding a female for a threesome?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

If you are looking for Clubs that are "lifestyle/Swing" friendly then Check out our CLUBS option on the top menu bar of the site.

Another option is to start a topic in our Forum in the Travel & Parties area.
I'm sure the LL locals in the Chi Town area will chime in with some great suggestions for current"upscale"clubs that you should try to make it to.

Finding a female for a threesome.
Use the Search option on the top menu bar and select Single Female as the status and any other criteria you are looking for.
You might also want to post a Booty call for what you are looking for as well :-)

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Question: sFun no strings no attachments

What swing club or clubs in Las Vegas are couples only?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Try posting your question in our Travel & Parties area of our Forum.

We have a lot of members who reside in and or travel in Las Vegas.

I'm sure they will chime in with where the current "Hot Spots" are that you should hit and which Clubs are "couples only".



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Question:

Dear Lounge Advice,

My boyfriend met a vanilla women who was very attracted to him.
They sent texts back and forth with her sending him naked pictures of herself, because he asked her too.
I found out and saw the texts and pictures.
The texts were about setting up a place to meet me and act like it was a random meeting, so we could have a threesome.
I was very hurt that he went behind my back. Now I don't know if I can trust him.


Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

If you two had discussed a scenario like this as part of fulfilling a fantasy for one of you or each other we would not see any problems with this.

If nothing like this has EVER been discussed at all between you two then your "red flags" are probably valid.

Might as well discuss the matter with him asap and get it all out in the open.
That is the only way you are going to be able to figure out if the "trust" and relationship you have is salvageable or not.


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Question: Fun Happy Couple in the frozen tundra

Dear Lounge Advice,

Can you tell me if there is an actual Glory Hole any where near the Twin Cities area?

Thanks

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Not that we are aware of.

We have seen people throw private events or parties in the past where they have basically created their own "Glory Hole"…some have been pretty creative.

Your best bet is to try asking in the
Travel & Parities or Member's Helping other Member's area of the Forum.

Hopefully some locals in that area will chime in if they know of one.

Good luck :-)


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Question: ... very bad.

Dear Lounge Advice,

Hi!

We are going on vacation to Barbados and would love any suggestions about meeting single men for cuckold threesomes..

BBC preferred but not a deal breaker

Craigslist is useless in the carribean..

Any thoughts? Any resources, swinger sites, clubs, well-known "Hunting grounds"?

Really appreciate any advice you can give!

warmly
jb and devon

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Your best best it to create a post in our Travel & Parties or Member's Helping other Members" area of our Forum.

If you can provide the general area you will be staying in during your trip hopefully some of our members who have frequented or live in that area will chime in with some great tips for finding "lifestyle" friendly Clubs you may want to look into
during your getaway there :-)


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Question: 3wayfwy

Dear Lounge Advice,

Does the lifestyle break up couples? I have friends who have been in the lifestyle for some years and she has meet another person who she wants to be with, is this normal?

It was a single male is this why we get such a bad rep being a SM in the lifestyle? How does a SM get away from such negative crap, when all we want to do is make friends.

thanks

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

We think most lifestyle couples would say that being in the "lifestyle" has only strengthened their relationship.

Lifestyle couples who split up do so for a variety of different reasons that are already ongoing in their relationship in the background.
Whether they are in the lifestyle or not makes no difference.

Even if they were a "vanilla couple" the same underlying issues would still be there affecting them.

Most strong & devoted lifestyle couples are fairly "wise" to when another individual is "stressing" their relationship out or putting it in jeopardy.

It makes no difference whether it is a single male or single female involved.








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Question: 3wayfwy

Dear Lounge Advice,

SM someone new to the lifestyle, been out more than in due to time and work but not really making any new friends. Do you have to be a perfect six pack guy with a 10 in. penis?

How does a nice SM meet new people, I have manners, very clean and nice but I have a hard time meeting in my area. What can a SM do in the crazy world of LA swing?

thanks

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

Be honest, and original when contacting other members.
Most people can tell the difference between a "copy n paste" email and something original with some thought & heart put into it.
You will have better results with that later.

Updating your photos and staying active in our Forum/Chat area on the site is also a good way to gain exposure to our member.

Definitely try attending events or parties in your area.

This is by far the best way to introduce yourself to other member sin your area.

Best of luck to you



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Question: New member!

Dear Lounge Advice,We are in Amsterdam and looking for a good sex show in the red light district. Have been disappointed in the past. Any recommendations?

Sincerely,

(Anonymous)

  
Dear (Anonymous),

You can check out our Club& Events area for leads on Club where you are visiting.

I would also suggest that you post your request in our forum.
We have a lot of members who are "world travelers".

I'm sure someone who lives in or frequently visits
Amsterdam may have some great leads on the fun/cool/sex shows you should check out while you are there.


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